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My Dearest friend KC wrote this post- we share a lot back and forth and it was exactly what I needed this morning.  All you lizadies that are reading this, please edify your soul with this,

Korby Charles Nordfors

The Lord's precious daughters

Over the past year or so I have vicariously experienced so much heartache and frustration and sadness through the eyes of a woman, it completely saddens me. It makes me upset and depressed and ashamed to be a man. The male gender is truly a very carnal, selfish, and barbaric race. For the most part, we live with no heart, no love, no compassion, and no sacrifice. We are judgmental and hypocritical. We expect our women to be these perfectly beautified slaves to our ego and manliness. It's wrong, it's so terribly wrong.

I know there are some great men out there, but they are rare and getting harder to find as our society churns an abundance amount of evil and hate through all walks of life. The great men are men who are obedient to the Lord's commandments, respect and maintain worthiness to bear the priesthood, and who are humble and submissive to the Lord's will. Through doing these things, carnal man are able to learn compassion and act selflessly in the service of all those around him.

But we are so weak. I could share countless examples of precious daughters of our Heavenly Father who have had broken hearts and hopes destroyed because of the weakness of one man. God's daughter's are naturally endowed with the compassion that males generally lack. Females are naturally selfless and extremely giving of their time and talents for the benefit of another. Women are also easier able to overlook faults, and learn to love someone for who they truly are inside, and not necessarily how they act on the outside. That's why so often girls allow boys to walk all over them, giving them second, third, fourth chances to be forgiven. Girls are by nature sweet and innocent and supremely kind, so much so that they are too often taken advantage of for their goodness. But rarely do these beautiful daughters of God become embittered or jaded. They hurt, they suffer, then they gain courage and get back up to face the harsh realities of the world with bright optimism and a huge hope. Only to be dashed into pieces once again by a stupid boy.

Stupid boy, I'm the same old, same old, same old stupid boy. Not only is this a great song by Keith Urban, but unfortunately it rings true with me and many of the ex's of my close female friends. I cannot even tell you how many times I have sat in conversation with a wonderful young woman discussing her heartache that has come because of a sorry excuse for a man. I, yes. I am to blame as well. I am a stupid boy, and hope to God that I can overcome my weaknesses in order to be able to love a woman with my whole heart and my whole soul! I want nothing more than to give my entire life to a worthy daughter of God. I am just lost and confused and very, very weak. I struggle. I know we all struggle. But why must the Lord's precious daughters be put through so much pain and agony and suffering because of the faults and weaknesses of us stupid boys?

I pray for compassion like my dear female friends who do so much for us. I pray for empathy, that I might be a better comforter. I pray for charity, that I might give up my life for the welfare of a beautiful woman. I pray for patience, understanding, selflessness, and mercy. I pray for a stronger desire to serve and to love. I pray for humility. I pray for hope. For without these attributes, I am nothing

 

I dont know.

I have always been amazed of what we know for surety in our lifetimes. When I was 14 and went to my 1st youth conference I very clearly was impressed with how much knowledge the youth have. To be able to walk up to the pulpit and say " I KNOW....." How many people outside of the church don't have an idea of what they really know? Especially when it comes to faith.
I always love testimony meetings, I listen carefully to how many times people say they "know" "believe" "faith"

Such a comfort to "know" where you are going, what you want, what you need, how to get it..etc.

One of the greatest blessings from being a member of this wonderful church is the ability to testify what you do know, to help others allow to feel your spirit and testimony. Its my favorite.

This post isn't exactly about testimony's and the knowledge we gain from being in this dispensation of the Gospel.

The post is more of an awakening I had to have.

When you don't know something isn't that a sure hint that its something you don't want or need?
When I am usually unsure, don't have the knowledge enough to know that I really want it, 9-10 I don't need or want it.
I have the great ability to make up my mind. I am full of assurance. I find it one of my most greatest qualities. I don't dilly-dally. When I am unhappy (whether it takes me 3 years or 3 minutes to figure it out) I fix it. I make happy. If I want something fixed, I fix it. When I want to be with someone, I make effort to be with them.
My heart is hurt right now. I didn't think I would be this vulnerable.
I always feel I am strong. I underestimated my strength a while back, and I keep finding more. I always do things on my own and don't ask for help...why? " cause I'm strong and can handle anything"

When I want the help, when I think "OK, ill expose this weakness, and then Ill get the help i need right"
Not this time.

I have this mask that I put on until the hurt is gone, and then I'm over it. It covers my real emotions, helps me logically deal with the drama, the hurt, the inevitable.
But this time, I cant find the mask. And I am exposed, the tears fell, the disappointment came out. Only 3 people have seen this. I lost the mask- it pissed me off. I remember the last place I put it and now I cant find it when I need it the most.
Its not that serious- so its not like I'm masking when I really don't need to....

I know what I want. That part is the easiest. The hardest part is finding someone just as sure as me. Willing to hold my hand and walk with me while I walk with them and we help each other, my weakness is your strength and your weakness is my strength.

Lightning struck, like never before- and I dove with my eyes closed, I saw all the good that was on my list- I dreamt about you, I pushed my fears away earlier than I should. I didn't play the game, I just went. I connected exactly how I hoped one day I would be able to with someone.

Now I'm back to the corner, and now its done. I'm gone.

You don't know, but I do.

That's the saddest part.


"Anger will eat at the most tender parts of your heart and make you feel hard-hearted, bitter, and jaded. A hard heart cannot feel the gentle touch of the Holy Ghost. A bitter heart cannot taste the sweetness of forgiveness. A jaded heart cannot believe in Christ’s power to heal all wounds, He can and He will heal your broken heart, you just have to let him.”


I know that you don't want me. I know that you don't need me. I know that you don't know a lot that I thought you would at this point. I know that I can handle a lot more than you think. I know that I am strong. I know that I am independent. I know that I am faithful. I know that I have many weaknesses. I know that someone will love me for all of me, and see what I have to offer. I know that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-iOcKaSeFo

Scrumdiddlyumptious

Grocery shopping is part of our regular activities. You can’t make food unless you have a pantry full of good food.
Think about what type of grocery shopper you are?
Some people are bargain shoppers, only buying things on sale and using coupons. The thrill of being able to buy the most for the least.
Others buy in bulk, buying large quantities at one time and only needing little bits here and there so the opportunity to shop is less needed. Others just grab and go, not paying attention to price, quality, or quantity.
I am sure there are some that are a good mix of all of these. I typically do not look at prices, but if there is a great sale, trust me I am going to take advantage. But I know what’s good, what’s bad.. so I shop based on quality. What’s most needed and what will make my meals taste most like perfection. I usually am only buying produce and things that are consumed immediately, so regardless of the price..its needed..RIGHT then ;)

SO, when it comes to dating, and having that mindset of choosing your eternal companion, how do you shop?

My personal grocery shopping habits and dating habits are kind of similar from the analogy standpoint.
The level of what I expect from my groceries based on what I paid and what the end result is to be is the same when it comes to dating.
If you want a really good steak, you aren’t going to buy beef from Wal-mart. I buy from the butcher and don’t mind paying $3 lbs compared to $1 lbs. I want my steak to taste good, be of good quality.
When you decide to date someone, you don’t go looking in the bar, or clubs. You go to church, YSA activities, use your friends. Even though its easier to meet someone at a club, bar, or work setting..you’re not getting what you are looking for.. from a LDS standpoint.

I learned hard lessons when it comes to buying different brands of food at the stores. Like when you buy the cheap brand of popcorn and it burns after a minute in the microwave.
Your expectations of the product from the start are high.
How can popcorn go wrong..no matter the brand?
But this one did..two times I tried it to see if it would be better.
How many times did you expect someone to be great with little knowledge?
"How could this person not be" and once you try them out… horrible, horrendous. That nasty burning smell that lingers everywhere and you wish you never "put them in the microwave"
(Bare with me people. I’m using A LOT of analogies)
You think, well maybe it was just a bad day, a bad batch... then you try again......Yep still burned, even put it in less time in the microwave, same result.

Wise shoppers study their options thoroughly before making a decision.
In my case, I bought two different brands; one was as always expected, great, delicious, no complaints. The other was bad news as soon as the box was opened.

I wanted to take a risk, try something new. But I needed to focus primarily on the quality and durability of the desired product. I want the very best. Sometimes the very best isn’t the most expensive brand either. The very best brand in my case was the Smiths Kroger brand.
My risky choice did not endure well.

Dating and picking your eternal companion is and always should be studied and looked at from all angles.
Is the cost of this worth the value? Is this ingredient what’s needed for the recipe? How soon does the product expire after opening? Will this product mix well with the others in my recipe or will it only sour it? Is this good for my health?

Sometimes, people make the ultimate choice and buy THE product.
They hope and expect that it will work despite the dent in the can or the brand not being the best.
But sometimes you can replace butter for olive oil, or sugar for applesauce. It’s worked before, and when you made your brownies and no one noticed there was no sugar in the recipe, you’ve succeeded.

But, sadly you cannot replace tomatoes for cherries, or cheese for flour. The recipe calls for milk, but using water only cheapens and thins it out and the whole meal is lost.
If the mistake was made, and the recipe failed because of the wrong grocery item, or a bad brand you have options to fix it. The best news is that you can go to the store and either return the item for a new or better one.
If the one you want is really expensive, I am sure if you wait long enough it will go on sale, or you can find a coupon…or…save $$ until you can afford it.

Celestial marriage is the most important goal we need to reach for. Once you have made that, the blessings and knowledge of what you and your eternal companion need to do next is easy and clear.

President Monson said "To find real happiness, we must seek for it in a focus outside ourselves. No one has learned the meaning of living until he has surrendered his ego to the service of his fellow man. Service to others is akin to duty-the fulfillment of which joy brings"

I know that harmony in marriage can only be found when one esteems the welfare of the spouse as the highest priorities. But that has to go both ways. Understanding the needs of each other is the key.

God’s plan of happiness allows us to choose for ourselves. Like the patterns of the many different types of shoppers out there, we can choose celestial marriage or lesser alternative. Some marital options are cheap, and some are costly, and some are cunningly crafted by Satan. He wants to breed misery.
Be very aware of that. If you are not happy while you are dating, what make you think you will be happy married? 
If you arent enjoying your meal because it tates gross, what makes you think it has nothing to do with the products purchased?

“One good yardstick as to whether a person might be the right one for you is this: in her presence, do you think your noblest thoughts, do you aspire to your finest deeds, do you wish you were better than you are?”  Ezra Taft Benson

When you go “grocery shopping” do you buy the cheapest food, just to save a few dollars? Do you buy the best so that your body is fed the finest qualities? Does the food make you healthier? Are you using what you are buying?

Remember to shop wisely and for the better good. To shop for the things that are able to sustain you, feed your soul, make good meals and are able to help create new everlasting recipes :)

Yummy Marriage Recipe

4 cups of love
2 cups of loyalty
3 cups of forgiveness
1 cup of friendship

5 spoons of hope
2 spoons of tenderness
4 quarts of faith
1 barrel of laughter

Take love and loyalty, mix it thoroughly with faith. Blend in tenderness, kindness and hope. Sprinkle abundantly with laughter. Bake with sunshine. Serve daily in generous helpings.